Jul 12, 2008
Lifestyle - Is she losing interest in sex?
A study has revealed that women are fast losing interest in sex. And this has been revealed by a number of 40-something men. Loss of libido in women, or low sexual desire, is the most common sexual problem for members of the fair sex and the major reason why they seek sex therapy. It affects upto 33 per cent to 67 per cent of women, depending on how sexual desire is defined and reported. And men aren’t beyond this too. But since it only affects about half as many men as women, it is nowhere close to men’s top sex problems. Loss of Libido Sexual desire is one of the most difficult factors to define for the simple reason that it is more psychological than physiological. Loss of libido refers to a lack of interest in sex for a prolonged period. Most women are conscious of this feeling. And unfortunately, many of these ladies don’t like the idea of confessing it to their husbands. Normal in women? It is important to understand that the loss of libido is not a disorder. How can it be a dysfunction if one-third of all women, no matter what their age, report that they lose interest in sex? Low sexual desire is an understandable result of an imbalance in your life. It may root to your relationship, your stress, or simply, changes in your body. Secondly, just because loss of libido in women is common, it doesn’t mean you can’t fix it. Even worse, losing interest in sex can mean you miss out on a lot more than simply one of life’s few non-fattening pleasures. It can begin to drain the passion out of the rest of your life, as well. Causes of loss of libido Biology: Sex can have serious consequences for women – a baby for starters, to take care of for the next twenty years. Not surprising that females seem hard-wired to approach sex with slightly less abandon than males do. Social conditioning: The messages women get from society with its double standards and attitudes towards sex, have a big affect on their sexual desire. Even with adult women who’ve been exposed to the Sex And The City culture, there is still a social conditioning prevalent that men are ‘studs’ if they are sexual, while women are ‘sluts’. Quality of relationship: For women, desire is strongly elicited to the relationship. “If we don’t talk and connect, we don’t have sex,” they often say. It’s not what happens in the bedroom – their desire arises when they are interacting with their partner. If the quality of those intimate but non-sexual contacts aren’t being attended to, most women just won’t feel “in the mood.” Hormones: Hormonal fluctuations with pregnancy, breast-feeding, and then with menopause a little later in life all can lessen desire to some extent. Medications: Depression and the anti-depressants used to treat it can also inhibit desire. So also can certain blood pressure-lowering drugs. Conditions such as endometriosis, fibroids and thyroid disorders can also be a cause. Life stages: Life changes – especially the birth of a child – can cause a loss of libido in women. It often occurs to women in their 20s with a child under five or six – their lack of interest doubles and triples. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure it out – physical stress and fatigue are also considered big factors.