Fantasy # 1
Not to win, but to surrender! Yes, it's the most common fantasy that people eat, drink, sleep and live with. The mere thought of a partner sweeping them off their feet and winning full sexual control over them provides a heady adrenaline rush. Women just love watching their macho lover begging for sexual release in the bedroom as they crack the whip on their love slave. And hot hunks also get turned on by the thought of being hand-cuffed in bed as their lady love assumes the role of the dominating lover. "I never knew my otherwise dictating man would love turning into a meek lover waiting to be taken to task by me. The total reversal of roles adds to the sexual excitement and gives me a chance to rule over him in bed. The sex we have is just wild," confesses 33-years-old Divya Pahwa from Delhi.
The way we do it: Hand cuffs or silky-satiny scarves come handy to enact this fantasy. Just tie your partner's limbs to the bed and there's your prey ...all set to submit to your sexual calls. He's the slave and you the master...so go ahead and live out your carnal pleasures. Touch, tease and tickle...the situation is a win-win at both ends. Your slave is bound to derive pleasure in begging for your sexual attention, as you enjoy making him/her deliver your hidden whim and fancies!
Fantasy # 2
Being a visual delight
A lot of couples love being an audience to their own sexual encounters by having sex in from of a full length/ceiling mirror. "The thought of watching our own moves in the mirror always leave my heart pumping harder. Though my wife was a little apprehensive initially, but soon she got into the flow. Not only is it fun, enjoying this voyeuristic pleasure helped my wife get over her body consciousness and come alive," admits 27-years-old, advertising executive, Jairaj Kanojia (name changed on request).
Just place a full length mirror strategically in front of your bed and there you have the perfect pitch ready to hit those sexual sixes and boundaries! So keep playing till one of you gets clean bowled!
Fantasy # 3
Recording the action
Recording your sexual pleasure is a secret fantasy of the rich and famous. Be it on your cell phone or a handy cam, a lot of couples love recording their sex encounters so that they can watch their moves later and get turned on. The realization of getting recoded is a major turn-on for couples as it gives the feeling of being a star, which in a way satiates another popular fantasy – of living the life of a Page 3 celebrity. "If the act offends either of the partners the other half must respect his/her wishes if he/she is not comfortable participating in the recording session. To o record without permission is simply not acceptable," says sexologist Dr. Madhukar Banerjee.
Fantasy # 4
Voyeurism can be defined as a sexual interest in spying on people engaged in intimate behaviors, such as undressing or indulging in sexual activities. And if you think only men love being 'Peeping Toms', you are sorely mistaken because a lot of women too enjoy this kink to the fullest! The very idea of peeping inside a couple's bedroom from a window or being a secret audience to a pleasure act in a park which is otherwise forbidden lends a sexual high to the beholder.
So, if your partner loves to get naughty by watching erotic act, just get him a pair of binoculars, a digital camera or let him use his eyes through that key hole when your hot neighbour is changing their clothes. Add to your partner's experience by parading in the room wearing sensuous lingerie, high heels or by simply making some irresistible moves and see him drooling! Another way to turn on the heat is to make out in potentially off-beat places like the elevator or the backseat of your car. The thrill of getting over with sex fast or the fear of being found out often lends a major kick to the sexual energy.
Fantasy # 5
Be it the mischevious school girl being spanked by the teacher or a bonded slave getting sexually exploited, role playing has always been a popular fantasy for lovers. A loving partner will surely give a positive nod as Gautam Bakshi did, "I was quite shocked to hear that my otherwise reserved wife dreams of me being a pilot and having steamy sex with a sexy air hostess. Though the idea of enacting the whole thing appeared awkward initially, I realised consequently that it was all about getting experimental and naughty. Thanks to her communicating her desires, today we are far more comfortable, happy and sexually gratified."
Some of the popular avatars that people love donning include employer and maid, where the maid just loves to be at the receiving end from the master and of course the lusty doctor sexually gratifying their needy patient. Suggesting the idea to your partner can be a potentially embarrassing situation initially. But have patience and tell them about the sexual satisfaction both of you can potentially derive if they are part of this sex drama. To get into action, all you need to need are costumes and your acting skills and soon you can realize how exiting it is to blur out the fine line between reality and fantasy!
Word of caution:
Although many couples find that sharing and acting out fantasies is a boost to accentuate intimacy levels between them, there are chances that some might not be very comfortable. Never force your partner if they are reluctant. Instead of elaborating about each and every move and motion of your fantasy, tell your partner about the general theme and later just go with the flow. Don't feel embarrassed if you try acting out your desires and the plan flops. Remember, there's always a second time and what's hot sex without some adventurous experimentation!
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